Did you find me today by listening to my interview on Cults to Consciousness?
I welcome you to my page and invite you to follow for more stories of my life and my writing.
I can’t believe that it has already been 10 years since I escaped my Hasidic marriage and that I am living a conscious life where I get to make choices that align with my values and allow me to live a life of freedom.
My story involves much bravery and stepping out in strength, but I want to be honest and let you know that it took a lot of work to get to where I am today. As I continue to evolve and grow, I look back to what got me to where I am today and the inner work it took to overcome all the doubts and hesitations.
For many years, the only way for me to survive was to be completely trauma-bonded to my family and ex-husband. They only valued me as to how my work would serve them. To survive, I also had to believe that, and eventually I believed that my value was completely dependent on how clean I kept the house, how tasty my meals were, or how obedient I was as a wife.
It took years of inner work to finally value myself as an individual with dreams and aspirations of my own. Letting go of perfectionism (even while still married and in the community) allowed me to begin to explore a different way of living.
If you also grapple with feelings of not being good enough and truly believe that you will feel better or have more value if you DO more, I invite you to download this guide Escape Perfectionism 5 Steps to a Life You Love that I created for you to support you in letting go of your perfectionism and start embracing yourself just the way you are.
If you want to read about my story of escaping, you can read about it in the Huffington Post.
Also, when you sign up for my Substack here, you’ll get more of my stories, insights, and information about my upcoming book.
Thank you for sharing your journey on C2C that brought me here to your substack. Can you please add the AI audio for those of us that are visually impaired? I would like to hear more from you.
I watched the interview--wow. I've read Deborah Feldman and Shalom Auslander (currently on his second memoir--Feh--and note that you, too, grew up in Monsey--I can now imagine how restrictive that world was. Glad you emerged and hope relationships with your older children improve some day--it seems like you are setting an example they may be able to follow, though it may take years.